How a yogini lifestyle has powerfully enhanced my life experience and mental fortitude. Why a holistic lifestyle works for everyone-even you!

By: Charity Sills November 23, 2020

I began practicing yoga in 2003. I have studied and practiced with some of the best teachers and monks in the world. As a teacher, I have a wide range of education and areas of expertise. I believe that teaching meditation is the most important gift that I bring to the world. I sometimes teach yoga as well. I studied with Darren Main ( http://www.Darrenmain.com) , Hannah Muse ( http://www.hannahmuseyoga.com) and countless others. I have been blessed enough to have spent a great deal of time training with monks. I have participated in yoga and meditation retreats globally in California, Nicaragua, Indonesia and Thailand. I believe that the most effective way to end needless suffering is a daily practice of yoga and meditation. It creates ease, strength, endurance, flexibility, inner peace, a sense of purpose, oneness with God and a joy that I personally have never successfully obtained elsewhere. As a survivor of kidnapping, ( trauma) , P.T.S.D. , chronic pain and depression I can attest to the profoundly healing power of yoga and meditation.

We live in a culture in which we are constantly seduced with ways to avoid reality. Monks have taught me how to sit with my most painful thoughts. If we can stay aware enough to get through trials they become easier and easier. What used to be daunting is now nothing to me. Because I know to create a gap between me and what buddhists call- the monkey mind. I know how to watch my thoughts instead of letting them define me. I know how to get out of the black hole that is racing destructive thought patterns. Meditation is scary to some people. To sit alone with oneself and ones thoughts is a tall order . Many people live their entire life without doing this. What this tool does- is return the power to you. We give our power often to fear. To strangers and their opinions. To significant others or to the lies on media. Some archaeologists date meditation back to as early as 5,000 BCE, according to Psychology Today, and the practice itself has religious ties in ancient Egypt and China, as well as Judaism, Hinduism, Jainism, Sikhism and, of course, Buddhism. With a consistent yoga and meditation practice we align with our higher self. The strongest, most beautiful and loving vibrant part of who we all are. The God within. Some people don't like the word God. Don't let that limit your capacity for happiness and emotional freedom. All that is needed really, is an innate belief in the best version of yourself that you can be. Not in a way that is damaging to your current self. As a lifetime mentor of self development it can be a dangerous line. Seeking delusional perfection , for example. This is not about perfection. It is about finding peace with one's imperfection and that of the world around us.

We live in a culture in which we are constantly seduced with ways to avoid reality. Monks have taught me how to sit with my most painful thoughts. If we can stay aware enough to get through trials they become easier and easier. What used to be daunting is now nothing to me. Because I know to create a gap between me and what buddhists call- the monkey mind. I know how to watch my thoughts instead of letting them define me. I know how to get out of the black hole that is racing destructive thought patterns. Meditation is scary to some people. To sit alone with oneself and ones thoughts is a tall order . Many people live their entire life without doing this. What this tool does- is return the power to you. We give our power often to fear. To strangers and their opinions. To significant others or to the lies on media. Some archaeologists date meditation back to as early as 5,000 BCE, according to Psychology Today, and the practice itself has religious ties in ancient Egypt and China, as well as Judaism, Hinduism, Jainism, Sikhism and, of course, Buddhism. With a consistent yoga and meditation practice we align with our higher self. The strongest, most beautiful and loving vibrant part of who we all are. The God within. Some people don't like the word God. Don't let that limit your capacity for happiness and emotional freedom. All that is needed really, is an innate belief in the best version of yourself that you can be. Not in a way that is damaging to your current self. As a lifetime mentor of self development it can be a dangerous line. Seeking delusional perfection , for example. This is not about perfection. It is about finding peace with one's imperfection and that of the world around us.

Grasping this enables us to love more fully. It brings our genuinity, courage and truth to the surface. I advise beginners of meditation to start very small. 5-15 minutes a day. Just breathe. Youtube is an excellent source of options. Some people find counting easier. For example inhale for 5 seconds, hold for two seconds, exhale for 7. I teach that most frequently to beginners. I also prefer music. I admit that music is a blankie for me. And I am ok with it. When learning meditation, realize that no way is the wrong way. It is much like finding a therapist or a dance teacher that works for you. It is going to be uncomfortable- as anything is for a beginner. That's normal and healthy. Expect it and don't fear it. Try to be open then find what resonates with you. The more we are willing to go outside of our comfort zone the more expansive our options in life become. Think of the yoga/meditation teachers as being on an audition. THEY are auditioning for you. You are making a conscious choice to get woke. With an open heart I believe you will be gently guided into the most empowering option nearest you.

This combined with other holistic methods of healing enable us to embrace our existence with inner strength and fortitude. We deserve our own love. We deserve Acupuncture, sound baths, chiropractic, aquatherapy, consistent cardio and cognitive behavioral therapy. Those combined in my opinion are a sure fire way to not only feel better, but to become a fortress of inner fortitude with a capacity to serve others and enjoy being in our own skin. We spend a lot of our life endlessly comparing ourselves to others and judging ourselves rather harshly. I suggest we put an end to that and love who we are. It is only when we love ourselves that we can truly love another. I was in my 20s by the time I first began to love myself. I traveled to the Brahma Vihara Arama temple in Indonesia and studied under the guidance of U Tejanaya Win. He is a burmese monk. It was there that I faced my greatest fear- which was a misperception of being unlovable. His compassion and wisdom combined with my courage and focus created my first structure of self love.

Introducing healthy practices into your life need not be extreme. You can totally till binge watch sons of anarchy and indulge as you wish. All I am suggesting is to give a few minutes a day to breathing. And as often you can, move your body. Maybe leave the phone inside one day-and listen to the trees. We are experts at tuning out- let us become experts at tuning in. If I may guide you in any way, I offer my services free of charge. I want for your suffering to decrease and your bliss to grow. As always, be kind to yourself and others. ​

Namaste,​

Charity Sills

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